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Hello, My Name Is Judith Sherman.

My business is helping people who want to change their lives. They want more control over what happens to them and their families. They want their lives to mean more than just trading hours for money, which fulfills someone else’s dreams, and they want to live a life that has meaning and purpose.

That’s what I want too, so I am here to offer you my service in any way I can help.

I have vast knowledge and experience from the thirty-two years that I’ve spent in Network Marketing and from being a small business owner.

International Leadership Development has helped me throughout the years, as well as what I learned from the Dale Carnegie Twelve Week Training Course!

I hope you will email me your questions and thoughts, and tell me about your experiences.

Please don’t hesitate in telliing me what you need or how this site helps you.

Perhaps you will request more information from me about how I can assist you and to tell you about my coaching services.

My goal is to help you obtain the precious desires of your heart!

So tell me what you need and how I can help you reach your goals. I really do want to help you.

I am an experienced life and business coach. I ‘ve helped several people, especially this past year.

I help people, on a one-on-one basis, to stay focused and on track.

Now that I have a certificate from Dale Carnegie Training, I am even more qualified to help you achieve your  precious desires.

Thanks for stopping by, I am anxious to meet you.

I enjoy some of the comments I get from leaders on Facebook.  When I find great messages that I think you will appreciate, I pass them on to you. This one came from Darnell Curtis that he sent a message to the members of http://www.facebook.com/l/06c34;YourNight.com.

To Your Night, Thought of the day Do not base your abilities on someone elses results, YOU MAY BE BETTER THAN THEM….

We need to be wise about our expectations and set goals according to accurate thinking* (I will cover this topic more at another time.) Remember that YOU are unique. There is no one like you.That is why you must only demand from yourself the things you have the power to affect, change, or control. Doing otherwise will frustrate you and those with whom you associate or do business.

Use the following guidelines when setting goals according to your aibilities:

• Use Accurate Thinking. As you make plans for your future and set goals, do not buy into the hype that is often associated with Network Marketing or try to be like others you believe are successful.
• Practice good work ethics, doing what you say you will do and follow through with the plans you’ve made.
• Choose who you listen to: Listen to only people more interested in your success than in their own.
• Keep your perspective in check. This mean you don’t try to run faster than you should and then fail because your perspective was out of whack.
• Stay in balance. Examine your priorities to make sure you are in alignment with God and Success Principles in order to be successful in life and business.
• Keep your priorities straight. Do only what you and your spouse have agreed upon as being important and will protect harmony in your life and home.
• Do NOT chase after people. Allow them to come to you because they know you, you have what they want, and they want to do business with you. To do this, your mind needs to be thinking right, your priorities need to be in alignment, and you need to be balanced. When people feel that they are on your radar, they will run in the opposite direction. People need to know that you are there for them but they won’t believe it if you chase them.
• Do NOT pretend to be successful or try to convince someone that you are a leader. True leaders just lead and don’t have to talk about being a leader. In other words, your actions speak louder than words. Doing what leaders do makes you a leader just as doing what successful people do leads to success. If you are not doing those things leaders and successful people do, then YOU ARE NOT a leader and you will not be successful.
• Be yourself, unless you are not the type of person with whom you would want to do business or to be on the other side of a discussion or an invite. You would not be impressed with someone who talks too much, doesn’t look or act professional, or is pushy.
• Take an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself in the weak areas through positive motivation and then decide how to take advantages of your strengths.
• Use your abilities to help those with whom you associate. When appropriate, offer to help someone FOR FREE and without strings attached or taking advantage of them. The more you share your abilities with people, the sharper your abilities become.
• Make a difference in someone’s life; doing so builds self-worth. Notice that I said it builds self-worth and not self-esteem. Self-esteem is the result of how others interact with you and how they make you feel. On the other hand, self-worth is how you feel about yourself when you understand how you have added value to someone’s life.
• Be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. You cannot allow people to steal your dreams, to keep you in a box or do things to prevent you have achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself. You need to love them for the value they contribute to your life and accept them for who they are, but you have to set healthy boundaries for them. Let them know you value their judgment and ask that they trust your judgment as well. If it’s a mistake then that’s the end result but you need to do it and see how far it takes you.

Being the most of your abilities means you fulfill the measure of your creation and strive to reach your full potential. What can be more satisfying than this?

*Note: I wrote about accurate thinking in my book “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”, copyright dated November 2005 and published by BookSurge.

Thinking About The Comments

I have received several comments on my blog posting about generating leads.  In responding back to them, I realized that I needed to do a follow-up on this subject.

Below you will see comments from readers that apply to the posting on gathering leads. After the comments is my response to the request to do a follow-up. I’ve included a link to the sites of the commenter so you can see what products/services they offer and can suggest that site to others.

Please feel free to leave comments. I enjoy reading what you have to say about this subject. Those who wanted to comment but have not yet, please know that your privacy is protected and I will not spam you. If you do not want your name or blog site mentioned, make that notation so I will not mentioned your name or site if I use your comment and my comment back.

Definately an eye opener. Thanks. Do you have any plans to follow up on this post. I hope that others will see this and contributeas well. Any time I come accross quality information like this I like give credit where it is due. I’ve already bookmarked this so I don’t have to wade through all the other sites. Believe me I’ve been at this for a week  http://felixgreenpct.insanejournal.com/

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I was studying something else about this on another blog. Interesting. Your position on it is diametrically contradicted to what I read to begin with. I am still mulling over the different points of view, but I’m inclined to a great extent toward yours. And irrespective, that’s what is so great about modern democracy and the marketplace of thoughts on-line. http://www.rugbyworldusa.com/

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I’ve been in network marketing since 1977, and I’ve seen successes and failures; it seems to be “the nature

Let Me Put On My Expert Glasses

of the beast” for network marketing.

I’ve also seen a lot of so-called experts who don’t really understand the important principles to being successful. The problem is they may succeed in gathering names but that’s it! They don’t have people skills, especially when their goal is to make money and they could care less about what the people want when they contact them.

There are too many people like this out in the field of Network Marketing. I will NOT do business this way. Using this approach may be successful to a point but it is only short-lived. I appreciate the comment that sparked my thoughts for this posting. Thank you for all of your comments.

Gathering leads is a subject most MLMs are interested in learning more about. I suggest you get yourself on wordpress and set up your own blog or contact me and let me give you some advice about a better way to do it; seriously, call me.

Write some articles that represent your business and your honest feelings about why you are doing it. Tell people you would appreciate them giving you their contact address so you can send them information about your business. Pledge that you will NOT spam them and that you will respect their privacy. Some people still won’t trust you but some will, especially if they are connecting with you through your blog.

The important thing to remember is that being sincere and honest in everything that represents you is extremely important. People will begin to trust you when they know that you do what you say you will do. Now that I’ve said this and you do write an article, give me the link and I will promote you.

Keep up the comments and tell me about your experiences and the areas you’ve done well in and the areas that need help.  Thanks again for being so forthright in your comments. It’s okay if you don’t agree with me, I want to hear that too and why you don’t agree.

Judith Sherman

Business Start-Up

I started a Network Marketing business in 1977, which is when I first learned about the soaring spirit and fulfilling dreams. Also, I learned that I can change the rules that society teaches us:

(1) go to school

(2) get good grades

(3) so we can go to college

(4) and get a good job.

Society’s rules worked well for most people at that time. However, people were not taught in school or by parents that there can be another way to be successful; that we can also become successful as an entrepreneur and a business owner. Society needs people that own businesses and provide jobs so others can earn an income. Unfortunately, in those days, there was little information available about becoming an entrepreneur and a business owner.

Network Marketing Became The Answer

Network Marketing companies showed people how they could be a business owner and control what happens to them. People learned that they could invest a little money and their spare time into a Network Marketing business. They also learned that doing that would affect their income and lifestyle more than they could do through a job.

Through Network Marketing, we learned that:

• *We can change our stars if we want to;
• *We can follow success principles that reward us with the things we want;
• *We can obtain what’s important to us when we commitment to do so.

We cannot allow people to keep us in a box or prevent us from becoming who we want to be and from obtaining what we feel is important in life. We have the God-given right to be who we need to be and to do what we know we must do!

We cannot live our lives through other people and their expectations of us. For example, I had an amazing experience that changed my life; I will never be the same because of it. As a result, I wrote a book about my experiences after that and what I learned about chaos, peace, joy, and happiness. However, my family was against me writing the book because they believed I would fail miserably so they tried to keep me from following through with publishing it.

Overcoming Obstacles

Some of my family thought I wasn’t smart enough to write a book that people would buy. One son even said that I did not know anything about peace, joy, and happiness. He reminded me that I was nobody, I had no credentials (meaning I had no titles or letters after my name), and I had no accomplishments that would cause people to think I was an expert on the subject. He said that I was not credible enough for people to pay attention to my work and buy the book. He said the family was worried that, if no one bought my book, it would be devastating to me because I failed. Obviously, he didn’t know me as well as he thought he did.

This experience taught me that we have to go after what we feel we are supposed to do, even when everyone close to us says we cannot do it. In my case, people did buy my books and I did not fail; in fact, I helped a lot of people. I made the decision that “I Will Not Be Denied My Destiny” and proceeded to publish the book, along with a second publication as well (titled “Sex, What About It?”).

I completed the book in spite of the teasing I took from friends and family. Instead of giving up, I followed through with publishing and I’m pleased that I did. Many readers told me that the book helped them overcome problems they have not been able to resolve until they read the book. One woman said that I understood her better than anyone else has throughout her entire life. Another one said that I have the ability to mirror life in general. People were able to get through their problems and make their lives better because I would not allow family and friends to tease me or prevent me from what I knew I had to do.

To read testimonials about my services, please use this link: www.JudithSherman.com/Testimonials.

Contact me by email:Judith@Sherman.com

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Suggestions For Gathering Leads

Aside from using the benefits of Renegade University in getting leads through Attraction Marketing, what method can be most beneficial in gathering leads?

I am a guide with Renegade University. I value this fantastic program because it has helped me in numerous ways. If you click on the link, you can read my bio about the whole Marketing Merge program. Then, if it interests you, click on the link at the bottom of that page. It will take you to a form where you can visit and enroll in the Renegade University.

Gathering Leads

Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 5:12AM

You can gather leads the “Old Fashion Way” by Cold Contacting people. This means you meet people that you did not know before and start up a conversation with them. You need to go to places where people gather (at the Mall, the park, church, social gatherings, grocery stores, car repair places) and begin a conversation with them. The conversation should cover the F.O.R.M. questions.

F.O.R.M. is talking about their

F family

O occupation/job

R recreation/travel, do they have places they want to go and boats or RV’s they want to buy

M message that you can help them with the concerns and desires they’ve mentioned

F.O.R.M. WILL BACKFIRE IF YOU ARE INSINCERE AND COME OFF AS A SALESMAN!

People don’t want to be sold but they do want to buy. They will buy what you want them to when you allow them to sell themselves. They will buy your marketing plan or products when they see the value in it for themselves, how it will improve their lives, and how they can do it. In other words, it’s their idea to join your organization or to buy your products or service.

THE NEW WAY, THE SMARTER WAY WILL BE TO ATTRACT PEOPLE THAT WANT WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER. They have already made the decision to look or they would not have found you on the Internet. Your job is to convince them to look at your offer. You do that with a good Contact Page that allows them to get the gist of what you are doing and how they benefit. They will then fill out the form for you to contact them.

Do you see the value in contacting people the second way? People are already looking for you, they already want to buy, and all they need is a reason to contact you and not someone else. Your job is to give them that reason.

The second suggestion is a much better way to contact people. The old way is really nothing short of solicitation, which is why people get so irritated when you talk to them, why they don’t want to hear about opportunities and plans, and why they seem to run the other way when you talk to them. Likely, they were not thinking of what you can offer them and they were not in the mindset to buy.

Obviously, your rate of success increases when you contact people who are already looking, already prepared for your message, and already to buy what you offer. What more can you ask for? Do your job and give them a reason to contact you.

Let me introduce you to the Renegade University way of contacting people in greater numbers, those who have already been sorted and qualified, and those who are ready for the next step.

Send me an email and tell me you want to talk. Call me or leave me a number to call you. Otherwise, just click on the links I’ve provided above and make the decision to enroll in the Renegade University. They will let me know you have enrolled shortly after and then I will help you get started right away.

My name is Judith Sherman

Phone 903-487-2989

Email is Judith@JudithSherman.com.

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“There is no such thing as can’t, only won’t. If you’re qualified, all it takes is a burning desire to accomplish, to make a change. Go forward, go backward. Whatever it takes! But you can’t blame other people or society in general. It all comes from your mind. When we do the impossible we realize we are special people.” Author–Jan Ashford

These are true words of wisdom. In addition, let me add that life is full of disappoint and hardship.  Using past successes or failures as an excuse for not succeeding is a prison that we’ve placed ourselves in with our own “stink’n think’n”.  Let go of it all and move forward! Change our situation!

Choosing to wallow in our problems or mistakes do no good, and letting anger rule our decisions is dangerous.

We cannot move forward if we insist on staying in the past. Not moving forward and staying stuck in our prison can cause us to become stagnant in life. The more stagnant we become, the more putrid our interactions with others become.

We have to let go of the past, remember the lessons we learned from it, and stop living the events that cause us pain. Looking in the rear view mirror means we can’t focus on what’s ahead of us; the future holds no goals, vision or dreams.

The same is true when we lean on past success and think that we deserve success now without the same level of efforts shown in the past. Each day, month and year is different from the last so we must acknowledge this when making plans. Being in the moment helps us to be more effective in carrying out our plans and helps us to be more flexible as well when something changes.

In Summary:

1.  There is NO Can’t Only Won’t!

2.  It takes a burning desire to succeed.

3.  If you aren’t going forward you are going backwards.

We cannot move forward if we insist on staying in the past. Get out of the past and live in the present.

2.  Stay in the present so we can meet current challenges.

3.  Be flexible in order to deal with today’s challenges, recognizing that each day and times are different.

4.  Put forth the effort necessary to succeed today and not on what you did in the past.

Be Responsible For Your Business

Upline in network marketing often put a lot of pressure on downline to perform, especially when someone stops producing or begins to give excuses. Because a person seems uncommitted or confused about what he or she really wants, an upline will often drop working with him or her all together because it isn’t worth the time. It’s just “The Nature of the Beast” for most Network Marketers. It’s a sad story, but one I hear over and over again.

The problem here is that many upline do not take the time to understand why people quit producing. In fact, they view excuses as non-committal or lazy. Let’s talk about why someone may stop producing in a Network Marketing business.

• They do not have the same work ethics as their upline.
• They do not have a reason to do the work. In other words, they have no “WOW”.
• They need more personal time to work on their fears with an upline who understands their issues.
• They see holes in the plan or they do not understand the plan well enough.
• They have heard negativity from family and friends and so they are losing faith in the system.
• They have big egos and think success should happen quickly, and so they won’t wait for it.
• They focus on their sales skills instead of what their prospects want and help them at that level.
• They make mistakes so they are too embarrassed to go forward and quit.
• They do not believe they can be successful.
• Lack of money to support their businesses, limiting their ability to work the business effectively.
• They have run out of names on their list.
• They lose the vision of why they started the business in the first place.
• They won’t accept trainning and try to go off on their own. They learn just enough to be dangerous to themselves and the people they talk to.

Do any of these reasons sound familiar to you? If so, you need to discuss it with your upline. Tell your sponsor how you feel and ask for their help. Upline cannot help you if they do not know your problem.

Another issue might be that you do not trust your sponsor to teach you what you need to know. You look upline for someone you feel comfortable to work with and deal with your problems. This can cause friction between you and your sponsor as well as your upline and sponsor.

May I suggest that you not bypass your sponsor, especially when you think you are too important to work with him or her and think you need to work with someone more impressive. Yes, people really do think like this all the time in Network Marketing.

You may be tempted to go upline because you like the success you see higher up and think it is better to work with them instead of someone who is almost as new as you. Keep in mind that the people you want to work with upline instead of your sponsor did not bring the opportunity to you. The one who thought of you deserves your respect. If you want to work with your upline, be sure that your sponsor is included in any meetings you have with them. Any upline that’s worth taking advice from will understand this principle and support it.

If you cannot find answers you want from your upline, feel free to contact me with your questions. Please do not contact me until you have tried to work out things with your upline and then let them help you.

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Be of good cheer. Do not think of today’s failures, but of success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will have a joy in overcoming obstacles—a delight in climbing rugged paths which you would perhaps never know if you did not sometimes slip backward, if the road were always smooth and pleasant. Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost. ~ Helen Keller.

Kevin Curtis left this message  for his facebook friends. I want to share this message with you because I see too many people rest on past laurels and think that will bring them successes in their businesses today.

“People park when they sit back and rest on past laurels; the mistake being that they allow over-confidence and past successes to cloud future rewards. This situation makes people lazy in their business dealings. They become board with their lives and fall victim to complacency.” ~ Judith Sherman

We cheat ourselves and our downline when we become complacent. There is little growth going on in our businesses and that’s a recipe for failure or for dropping out. Then, since our downline duplicate us, those we have sponsored will become complacent and possibly drop out as well.

To keep this from becoming a problem, we must learn to do something every day that keeps us motivated and hungry enough to grow our businesses. This is what I have done and why I was able to overcome tremendous hardship to succeed in publishing my book. I believe this situation is represented well in the story “Tortoise and the Hare”.

The tortoise is slow moving and takes a long time to get anywhere. On the other hand, the hare is very speedy. One day the tortoise and the hare were challenge to a race. The hare is expected to win because he is fast and the tortoise is so slow.

The hare ran fast and became tired, so he decided to lay down for a rest. At other times he would stop to play a little. The hare knew that, because he runs so fast, he can make up time and still win the race.

Although the tortoise may not be very fast, he just keeps trudging along. He does not stop to play or to rest because he takes the race seriously. He just keeps going, putting one foot in front of the other. The tortoise is slow, but nevertheless he won the race.

Do you see this same activity going on in your business?  Do you see some associates working their businesses at full speed and then tire so they take a break? Once they lose momentum, it is difficult to get it back and it takes more effort to regain the momentum lost.

Then there is the slow starting associate that doesn’t appear to be doing as much as you would like, but they always seem to reach their goals. They always seem to make sales and sponsor new associates every single month. This is the same principle demonstrated in the tortoise and the hare story. Putting one foot in front of the other every day, doing something meaningful in your business every day, reaps the rewards that come with success.

Working smart instead of working hard uses the same principle as the tortoise and the hare. Making contact with people in a friendly manner with no expectations will gain their trust and they know you will not bomb out on them. They will watch you for awhile to make sure you are serious about your business and the relationship you develop with them. If they do not like what they see, they won’t give you the time of day. Then, once they see that you are trustworthy, they will be loyal to you as long as you are in business.

If you want to be like the hare, you need to be doing something else as well to help you keep up the momentum and not tire easily. Otherwise, you WILL lose faith when things don’t happen as quickly as you expect.  Also, you will grow tired and weary from the pace and need to take a rest. As the hare discovered, rest breaks can cause you to lose. Someone else will come by and pick up where you left off, and you will have no one but YOU to blame.

My advice is to pace yourself with a steady application of effort and working smart, improving your skills through education, and taking time for relaxation. Allow people to know you better and to develop a good relationship with them. It takes time to develop healthy relationships and to earn loyalty. People need to know that their relationship with you is worth more to you than money or what you can earn from their business.

I would like to build a relationship with you as well through my postings. But that relationship has to go two ways. So this means I welcome your stories regarding the principles discussed in this article or about anything else you would like to share or ask me. You may leave a comment in the box below, or email me at Judith@JudithSherman.com

LACK OF PLANNING FOR WHAT’S NEXT

It took me a long time to figure out why people die in their businesses or why they fail in life when they seemed to be at the pinnacle of success in their professions. In almost every instance, parking was the reason; they did not plan for what to do next once success was attained.

Unfortunately, people often spend too much time and energy building their future and then forget how to build a good life in the present or how to maintain good relationships. In so doing, they often take people for granted and do not see the blessings in their lives. This happen when people see success as a destination instead of a wonderful journey through life.

The problem with people treating success as a destination is that, once they’ve arrived, they don’t think about what to do next. They often forget to set additional goals after reaching their specified level. Life has a tendency to become routine, mundane, dull, and unexciting when people no longer dream or set goals. Indeed, their lives seem empty when they have not planned for “What’s next.”

A woman I once knew named Anne found herself in this situation. She described herself as feeling depressed. She asked herself, “Why do I feel this way? All I want to do is cry. I should be happy. I have everything I could ever want and life is so good to me.”

Anne’s best friend suggested that perhaps what she was experiencing was just a let-down after coming off the high she had been on during that period of time. She had been successful in her business and also had just married a wonderful man. It had been such a whirlwind leading up to the wedding that, when it was all over, she did not know what to do next. In other words, because she had been busily working hard for the event of a lifetime (which she had been praying for a long time), a big hole was left inside of her when it was all over. The problem was she had nothing in place to substitute the energy high she had been on for the past several months.

My point is that you should not only plan to succeed, but you should also plan for what happens after you reach the level of success for which you had planned. You should make plans for what comes next by setting new goals. Think about the following questions:

What motivates you to move ahead in life and to reach for another goal?

What worthy project would you like to be involved with next?

What will you do with your time and energy once you have gotten to where you want to be?

How do you see yourself in the future and decide what you want to see there?

Who will be there with you, who will not be there, and what will you be doing or not doing?

What kind of person will you be, spoiled or humbled?

How will you spend your time, energy, and money?

Will you be wasteful with those assets or continue to use them wisely and charitably?

How much time or money will you be giving to charity, and to what organizations?

These are questions you need to answer so that you have a realistic plan in place to keep you motivated and growing each time you reach a new goal. Also, you need to be adding new lifeblood to everything you set out to accomplish. Old blood gets sluggish and thick when there’s nothing to give it boost once in a while. This means you need to bring new people and new ideas into your circle on a regular basis.

I welcome comments about this subject. Do you believe that planning for what’s next and following through with what you had planned is important?

I suggest you refer to a blog I found interesting. I do not know the author but the material is interesting. Use this link.