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Hello, My Name Is Judith Sherman.

My business is helping people who want to change their lives. They want more control over what happens to them and their families. They want their lives to mean more than just trading hours for money, which fulfills someone else’s dreams, and they want to live a life that has meaning and purpose.

That’s what I want too, so I am here to offer you my service in any way I can help.

I have vast knowledge and experience from the thirty-two years that I’ve spent in Network Marketing and from being a small business owner.

International Leadership Development has helped me throughout the years, as well as what I learned from the Dale Carnegie Twelve Week Training Course!

I hope you will email me your questions and thoughts, and tell me about your experiences.

Please don’t hesitate in telliing me what you need or how this site helps you.

Perhaps you will request more information from me about how I can assist you and to tell you about my coaching services.

My goal is to help you obtain the precious desires of your heart!

So tell me what you need and how I can help you reach your goals. I really do want to help you.

I am an experienced life and business coach. I ‘ve helped several people, especially this past year.

I help people, on a one-on-one basis, to stay focused and on track.

Now that I have a certificate from Dale Carnegie Training, I am even more qualified to help you achieve your  precious desires.

Thanks for stopping by, I am anxious to meet you.

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How to Succeed

Success is measured in many ways, but the “mindset for succeeding” is measure by how you think and what you do about it!

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Being In The Moment

REPOST FROM JULYNNE CONSULTING

YESTERDAY is gone and TOMORROW has not come, so what we have is TODAY.

Sure, YESTERDAY was good and has given us some fond memories,

Yet we believe that  TOMORROW will be even better.

The plans we’ve made TODAY will improve the quality of our lives

And provide more prosperity in the future!


It is healthy for us to be positive about our future and to have dreams of brighter days ahead; we were created to be that way. However, it is not healthy to put our lives on hold–waiting for happier and more rewarding times. We fool ourselves into thinking that:

  • “When I am married, I will be happier.”
  • “When I finish school, I will get a good job and make a lot more money.”
  • “When I retire, I will have time to do the things I want to do now.”

In other words, there is always  ”WHEN”  before things will be better and before we will be happy. Do you see the flaw in this type of thinking?

We can be happy only when we learn to live in the now. We need to recognize the situation we live in and accept it for what it is now.

Happiness means we make the best of each and every minute that we live and learn from our mistakes.

Do not misunderstand me. I am not saying that we should give up on things getting better or that we should live as if there is no tomorrow by indulging ourselves and doing things that we will regret tomorrow.

I am saying that yesterday taught us how we want to live our lives now and childhood experiences taught us how to be happy with simplicity. Yesterday has made us who we are today, and tomorrow represents the choices we make today.

We cannot live in the past, and neither can we try to stand on past accomplishments so we stop progressing in the present. We need new dreams, new goals, and a new plan that is based on the realities of today.

Judging success and happiness on what has happened in the past or on what will happen in the future is a mistake. We are not the same person today as we were yesterday or as we will be tomorrow. We don’t know what trials and circumstances we will face in the future and what tools we will have available to overcome them. All we have is “NOW” to be happy and successful according to the standards that we’ve set for today. We need to take life as it comes and make it mean something to us in that moment.

Success is measured in many different ways by society and viewed by yourself in a variety of ways as well. Success can just be doing what you have always wanted to do and being the person you want to be. It doesn’t have to be what others think is successful, it’s what you value that is a true measure of your success.

For example, I wrote a book that I felt would help people avoid some of the pitfalls in life that I discovered and tell them what I learned about being a happier and more peaceful person. I succeeded in this endeavor because I did what I wanted to do. In other words, I published two books and helped people make their lives better through my writings; doing that has been very satisfying to me.

  • Did I make a lot of money like I thought I would? No I did not!
  • Does this mean that I am not successful? It depends on what I expected.
  • What did I say I wanted to do? I said that I wanted to write a book to help people learn from my mistakes.  Is that what I did? Yes, I did what I said I wanted to do!
  • Does it mean that I succeeded in doing what I wanted to do? Yes, and it helped people improve situations in their lives! As far as I am concerned, I succeeded in every aspect of my goals. Yes, more money would have been nice. However, my vision did not include becoming financially wealthy.

Hope and vision for the future keep us motivated and give us a reason to do things that prepare us for better days. My point is to live our lives according to the standards that we’ve set for ourselves and that make us happy in our present circumstances.

We need to live each day as if we’re ready to meet our maker. We need to be satisfied that we are right with God, right with our personal and business dealings, and right with family members. In addition, we need to be grateful for the breath that we take each day and thankful for all that we have been given in life.

The power within gives us the ability to be the person we want to be. We can choose to be angry and nasty or to be happy and grateful. Also, we can make each day be whatever we choose to make it. In other words, the day will be what we make of it.

We actually can change the world around us when we understand who we are and accept our responsibility to affect the world in a positive way. I believe these words whole-heartedly, and I know that this wisdom is found through my own experiences.

I know that life is not pleasant or beautiful when so much ugliness is around us, yet we see what we choose to see. Just because we know the reality of life, it doesn’t mean that we have to live according to the ways of the world — being in the world but not of the world. We can be the kind of person we choose to be and live according to our own standards!

This is how we need live our lives. We should not worry about what we are going to say or do or if that will affect how we will be accepted. We just need to start doing, saying, and being ourselves and then allow what will be to be whatever it is. We cannot become overly concerned about who is paying attention to us or to what we have to say.

We may never know how we affect people by our words or deeds. We need not dwell on that and just do what we know we need to do — without our motivation being to change people or to make them be who we think they should be. What we do and say needs to be what we know to be true for us and then allow others to do what they think is right for them.

I redirected my negative energy after 9/11/2001 by writing in my journal. Writing is how I made it through depression and became a blessing in my life. What I wrote turned into a book when I realized that others might be suffering in the same way and benefit from what I’ve learned.

Perhaps my experiences will help people get through their problems with depression and excessive thinking by reading how I managed to get through it. My journal was a blessing to me in solving problems. In many ways, inspiration came from my own words. . .even before I fully understood the meaning of a lesson. Actually, it is journal entries that formed the original manuscript and turned into a six book series, with more to come (five still needing to be published).

It is true that I hope someone reads this posting and benefits from it because there is wisdom and inspiration in the lessons I’ve experienced. However, this is not the main purpose for writing this post. My purpose is to share what I’ve learned with you and then you decide if it has value for you.

I feel inspired to write and so I do. Perhaps you will gain something more than just reading my words and decide, like I did, to make a difference in your life… making choices that are blessings to you (like writing in my journal blessed me). You may want to do as I have and write your own blog or start a journal.

We should try to live our lives according to the inspirations that we receive for present circumstances. How else can we know how to face the scary times ahead and know what to do? We just have to live by the promptings that come to us.

Now, if you just happened to stop by for a visit, please leave me a note to let me know that you came by . . . I would like to hear from you, read your comments, and perhaps hear about your life experiences.

In conclusion, let me say that I hope people will become more comfortable with who they are and not try so hard to be more acceptable to their peers.

Sincerely,

Judith Sherman

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I Have This Great Opportunity For You

You may not agree on every point discussed in this post. However, I am confident that once situations begin to reveal the symptoms of a problem within an organization, you will recognize the red flags as they emerge and see things from a different perspective. Naturally, in the future, you will want to teach these principles to your own downline and associates.

How Great of an Opportunity is It?

Often, a desire to change our lives lulls us into an opportunity that only lines the pockets of somebody else. This happens because there are experts in the field who know how to capitalize on your dreams, and they know how to present their programs so it appeals to you. They have you pegged the minute they begin talking to you and so they know what tools to use in manipulating you.

It’s true that sometimes an opportunity is as good as it appears, and yet other times an opportunity is a bad risk and you should not become involved with it. You have to weed through all the hype associated with the plan and scrutinize what they tell you in order to find the truth.

First, I must qualify myself. I’ve seen many people do well in their Network Marketing businesses. I’ve also seen many more who have not done well. I, myself, have done very well in some ventures and others I have not done as well as I expected. Nevertheless, I joined each venture believing that I would succeed and that it would be the best opportunity.

With that said, even when we are committed to the success of our businesses, it still may not work for us; possibly because there are holes in the plan that we did not see in the beginning (usually the holes are found in their terms and conditions). This is why we need to take the time we need to investigate an opportunity enough to know the truth or accept the risk. If we accept the risk, then what about the people we involve in the risk with us? We owe it to them to be sure that they will not be taken for a ride along with us that they were not prepared to take.

Take the Time To Investigate

The reason family and friends won’t join us in most of our ventures is because they know that we do not investigate opportunities well enough and so we get taken for a ride. Therefore, they won’t listen when we try to talk to them; they don’t trust us to know if this one is a good opportunity or not.

I’ve learned that, if we are unsure about the worthiness of an opportunity, we need to take some time to investigate it more thoroughly before we make a decision. Look at an opportunity with objectivity. This means we are less likely to be taken in by all the fluff and hype they use to rev-up a group or a crowd. However, if the promoter tries to apply pressure on us, it’s time to tell them goodbye. There is a reason for the pressure, and usually it is NOT for our best interest.

A mistake many of us make is we perceive a good followup as being pressure to join. We need to be honest when they call so they do not followup at a pace that makes us feel uncomfortable. We can resolve this problem by agreeing to attend their meetings for awhile and then make a decision.

Attending all their functions will acquaint us with the Association and the upline with whom we will be working closely. This is the only way we will find out who is making real money and who is putting on a front. Take note of how hard people are working and if they are running themselves ragged but seeing little payoff for it. My friend says this is like an airplane running down the tarmac and not having enough lift to take off.

Attending their meetings is a good way to find holes in the plan and learn more about the integrity of their organization. After awhile, they will no longer see us as an investigator but as part of the group; that is when the walls come down and we see the true integrity in their business dealings.

What’s the Gimmick or The Ploy That Hooks You?

I am going to get personal with you here because I want to be very candid about the pitfalls in Network Marketing—even the good ones.

Network Marketing is the best tool available today for average people to get into business and change their stars. Although there are many bad opportunities, there are still some that are reputable and have a viable business plan. With use of the Internet now, there are even greater opportunities to do well if one will follow sound principles when working it.

Below is a list of the gimmicks and ploys I’ve discovered that hook us into an opportunity…be it a good or a bad one. Perhaps some of you found many of these examples are true and can attest to what I’m telling you.

1 – Experts Look For Your WOW! The promoter’s objective is to get you to start dreaming or to wake up the passion inside you about your dreams. You need to have a reason for doing what they want you to do. They are looking for your trigger so they can capitalize on it. This doesn’t mean that everyone who taps into your dream has sinister motives. It just means they know you won’t do anything without having a reason. Your WOW is your motivation and, without it, you’re dead in the water before you even get started.

After a good promoter spends time finding your reason for taking advantage of their opportunity or building on your dreams, they spend time convincing you that you can do it. On the surface, there is nothing sinister about these motives. It is the wise thing to do, and this is what makes Network Marketing work for people.

Being suspicious of someone getting you to dream is not necessary in most cases; it’s part of the training so you can succeed. Talking with you about your dreams and ambitions gives them an opportunity to ask important questions that you need to consider and gives you a chance to look inside yourself to answer them.

It is completely appropriate, however, to be suspicious about their claims and the plan they promote. An honest promoter will tell you exactly what it takes to succeed in their business without resorting to a bunch of hype to sell you on their plan.

2 – You need to watch out for holes in the plan.

*Does the plan make sense?

*Are products too expensive for most people?

*What is the upfront cost to join?

*Where does that money go when you join? Some companies give part of your signup money to philanthropic organizations. You need to know the percentage and how much really goes out to those organizations.

*How are products being moved?

*How much product do you need to move to produce the volume from which they base each level of income shown in their presentation?

*If income is not based on moving products, then what actually makes you money?

*What is the risk? FTC laws say the opportunity MUST be the same for everyone, from top to bottom. If it isn’t, then it is a pyramid and likely a scam—which means that, most often, it will be shut down within the first year or so.

3 – NEVER JOIN an opportunity when you have to buy into a position: either by purchasing a certain amount of stock to reach leadership levels or they reserve a spot for you to buy a downline. If they bought a downline, then they don’t really know how to help you because they have not had to do what they are requiring of you. The promoter will tell you that this is the fast way to make money, and in some cases it could be true. However, I am telling you that this is NOT TRUE in most other situations and for most people! Let me explain why, because this is really the final straw that broke my own business.

Buy UP to a level:

When your income depends on monthly volume, it means your profit is dependent on products moving within your group. Stocking up on products is like shooting yourself in the foot.

For instance, you sell product “A” to someone (to an associate or a customer) so that product needs to be replaced (ordered) for it to count as volume for the current month. If you have the product in stock, you won’t make a purchase until the stock is low or gone. Without new volume going through your business every month, the money you need to restock is usually spent by the time you need to reorder. Also, you will likely do what many Network Marketers do in this situation—you bank on the fact that enough money will be there when it’s time to restock product “A”.

Do you see the error in this type of thinking? You are spending money today by banking on money being there tomorrow. You have faith or a belief that your business will grow and that you will have more than enough money to restock products then. In principle, it makes sense; in reality, it makes NO sense to stock up on products in order to buy up to a new level.

YOU MUST NOT BANK ON SPENDING “TOMORROW’S MONEY” TODAY, THINKING THE MONEY WILL BE THERE WHEN YOU NEED IT! If you break this Universal Law of Money, there will always be a consequence that follows. Even if the money is there when you need it, did you have to sacrifice something to make sure that enough money is in the account? Is that sacrifice your consequence?

If you need volume for a specific level, it means you and your downline must create it through movement of products. You do not create new volume unless you sell something and then order it for that volume to count in the current month. If you buy up or accept autoship (read this representatives experience with autoship), you will likely have a charge on your account that you can’t pay and so you will be cancelled.

Sponsoring new people moves products, but not enough to move you up several levels in volume. The way many opportunities work today is they require you to have a standing order every month by requiring you to have a product shipped to you every month or you will not qualify for a bonus from downline production (it’s called autoship) and your upline may get it instead.

If your downline buys products for themselves and their customers, along with the volume you create, and the total volume gives you enough for a new level, then all is well and everyone is happy. However, what if some of your downline decide to stock up on products as you did and they buy up to a level also?

Remember, your downline will duplicate you and usually that is a good thing. The problem with this plan is that now they have stock and you have stock. None of you will restock until products are gone or low enough to reorder. This system will work fine IF you and your downline work very hard to move the products you stocked up on and IF you can order new stock in the month you need new volume.

4 - Your contact list gives your upline names and phone numbers of everyone you know, which he or she can use as contacts after you drop out. Most new signups give up too quickly because they think the opportunity is a fast fix for their money problems or because they expect cash to come rolling in before they have given it enough time to expect that outcome. When people quit or are cancelled because of an unpaid charge, the upline scoops up the downline. Then the company sells the name

Sometimes upline will take ownership of your contacts and start communicating with them behind your back. Even if the upline has good motives, this does not edify you as the sponsor and diminishes your position with your new signup and your group. Some of them even sell your name as being interested in network marketing.

Your upline SHOULD ALWAYS work through you when there is ANY CONTACT with people on your list. This mistake is one I made in the beginning with my own business. I never did gain back the respect and trust of my downline after that mistake.

Keep in mind that your upline is doing this for a reason. Either he or she is looking out for his or her own interests, or he or she doesn’t trust you to handle your own prospects correctly. If your upline is doing this to you, then ask yourself why? Also, ask yourself if what your upline communicates to you and your downline makes sense and is it in agreement with sound principles? If not, then why and what do you plan to do about it?

Greed Is A Motivator

A devious marketer will try to appeal to the GREED inside every human being. We all want a good deal, and we all want to get something for nothing or for very little effort on our part. We know this is true when we think or hear ourselves say: I only have to do this much and I will get this much money for it. Do you see it?

In contrast, an honest marketer will spell out the plan, it’s weaknesses and strong points, and commit you to working the plan the way they know it works best. The plan will include a specific amount of effort in order to receive a certain amount of reward. Any plan that tries to say otherwise is a lie. All Network Marketers who have made it up the ladder know exactly what it takes to get there. Either they purchased downline to reach their level or they made it with hard work. You need to know exactly what hard work it will take.

DON’T make the mistake of basing your success on the success of those who are talking to you. You are not them and your circumstances are different. Your commitment level and work ethics are different. Your contacts and financial situation is different. Although all of this is true and very important to consider, you still look for holes in the plan that people want to hide. You need to understand the true success of those who want you to join them in the opportunity.

If you are seriously considering an opportunity, you must be bold and discuss these points with the person who wants you to do this plan. If the person is new, then don’t depend on them to give you the answer, go straight to the “horses mouth” and find out for yourself.

For example, you need answers to the following questions.

*How many clients do I need to see in order to get the volume you show in the plan?

*Is your success level based on the same compensation plan and the same presentation as they just showed me or did you buy your business from someone?

*How many “no” responses do you get compared to “yes”?

*What must I do every day towards reaching the levels that you describe?

*Tell the upline that you recognize your success cannot be based on others, but there is a figure required by law for them to disclose that tells you how many people actually make the levels discussed in the plan they showed you. Be sure to see their their terms of agreement. If it’s a long terms of agreement than run. The shorter their terms the more transparent they are.

If you set guidelines for yourself and follow them, you will be less likely to get mixed up in a “sinking ship” or a scam. Scammers depend on your vulnerability and greed. Protect yourself by understanding what red flags signal a scam. If it doesn’t ring true then tell them “NO THANKS”.

Good examples of red flags:

*Network Marketing companies that are ground floor opportunities or in pre-launch (pre-launch means they could be having financial problems so they plan on their reps to bring in the income because they don’t have financial backing)

*The Newest Book on the market on How to Become a Millionaire

*And the newest deal that’s almost too good to be true.

These are all questionable opportunities.

If you have questions about this article, I will be glad to respond to an email.

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Join My Forum

At the risk of some of you not reading this article because you think it is about politics instead of business, I urge you to still read on because it really does relate to how you do business. Consider how you would fulfill your dreams and the measure of your creation if government tied your hands and restrict your ability to live the way you prefer and pass laws that control your thinking.

There is a grassroots movement in America today that’s known as the TEA Party. This movement is about more than protesting high taxation (TEA=Taxed Enough Already) but has become a group effort to affect decisions in government.

The TEA Party’s efforts center around the need to protect what our forefathers died for and have sacrificed so much to give us. Please, I would really appreciate you joining my forum discussion at Stand Up Patriots to discuss the TEA Party Movement and how you feel about the way politicians and the media portray their efforts. Also, see http://MomsAndGrandmasUnited.com/

Why I Ask This Of You

First, understand that I’m not saying you cannot succeed and have your dreams fulfilled under a government other than we have now. I am saying that our dreams, goals, and plans we set in motions are based on the way of life that we currently enjoy. For these reasons, I need to talk with you for a moment about the TEA Party movement.

This grassroots movement is gaining momentum the past year and so they are drawing a lot of attention from the media and politicians. As a result, the group is now being demonized for having the audacity to stand up as patriots. Members speak out with courage against progressive liberals who are aggressively attempting to change the foundation of America.

This Is Not About Advancing Political Points of View

We are no longer talking about politics as usual, about the differences between party lines, or whose philosophy is right or wrong. We are talking about supporting a group effort to protect the American Constitution, protecting “checks and balances”, and keeping the three divisions of government separate, honest and healthy so we can live our dreams in a free commerce.

In addition, we are talking about protecting America from being subject to world laws, world religion, and one world currency. The grassroots movement that the TEA Party stands for is really a moral issue. It’s about our power to think the way we want and the right to speak out against government intervention in our businesses and in our lives.

The TEA Party movement frustrates Progressive liberal’s efforts to see their vision for American fulfilled. They have been trying to make this vision become reality for over forty years. As a result, their counter-move is to discredit TEA Party efforts by portraying them as racists, hateful, seditious, and violent. Of course, any one who attends TEA Party events will know these claims are FALSE.

I’m not racist, not violent, just not silent any more.  Are you?

Glenn Beck suggested that we put these words on the Internet and everywhere we can to let people know that what they’ve been hearing about TEA Party members is wrong. It is an OUTRIGHT LIE being used (by guess who) to manipulate support for the group.

The progressive left want to discredit this movement and our objection to what they want to do to America.

  • *We DO NOT want Socialism in America. Our forefathers left that form of government behind them and established a Democratic Republic form of government–which gives sovereignty to states and representation of the people in government.
  • *We DO NOT want an over-extended government that gets into our personal lives and business dealings. We believe in capitalism and free commerce.
  • *We DO NOT want government making us dependent on them verses self-reliance. We believe in allowing communities and churches to care for those in need and limited government programs.
  • *We DO NOT want government telling us how to think, deeming what speech is acceptable, and limiting our business dealings with ridiculous rules and regulations.
  • *We DO NOT want government telling us how to run our families either and our personal finances.
  • *We DO NOT want government telling us that we cannot voice our religious views in public because we might offend someone who believes differently.

Since the TEA Party is gaining so much momentum, those who oppose the movement feel a need to attack our work. It appears that they really think Americans are stupid enough to accept their vision for America and will not wake up to the truth until it is all over.

Well, we are awake now and we are not going to silently take it! The TEA Party movement irritates their progress and frustrate their goals. We must be vigilant at election time and replace every one of them that support the progressive liberal efforts to take down our present lifestyle in America. We must remove those from governing our affairs who want to replace free enterprise and the Constitution with “One World Order”.

How Will One World Order Affect Your Business Plans?

What does “One World Order” mean?

  • *One World Religion-which means no religion
  • *One World currency
  • *One World government-which means some form of socialism-with all citizens regulated by one body of world government and world laws.

If you agree that this is not the type of wold in which you want to live, please join me in standing up as a true Patriot. Being a Patriot means you support what our forefathers died to give us, you support what our soldiers sacrificed and died for, and you support our men and women overseas who are in harms way to secure our way of life for us.

You Don’t Get Involved In Politics

If you are not paying attention to politics now, it means that you just don’t care about what government is doing or that don’t want to be pulled into politics. However, you had better start paying attention! Otherwise, you and the rest of us are about to lose all that makes this country great and that allows us to live the way we choose.

You are an irresponsible citizen when you do not participate in protecting our freedom and the blessings we enjoy by living in this country. You stand there in your private little world and say you don’t want to be bothered or get involved, and yet you enjoy the benefits and lifestyle that American citizens receive without any contributions to protect it. No, you just leave it up to us who will stand up for you and who will do it all for your benefit. That is just plain lazy on your part and it insults the rest of us.

If you agree with the progressive liberal movement, then I am sure you will soon find out the error in your thinking. It is the freedom in present America that allows you to think the way you do. Just wait until you are not allowed to think that way any more or to voice your opinions without fear of being put in prison. At that point, however, it will be too late!

Now Tell Me Where I Said Anything About Racism, Hate, and Violence! You didn’t hear me say a word because the TEA Party movement is about uniting people to protect freedom.

THE TEA PARTY DOES NOT CONDONE RACISM, HATE OR VIOLENCE. The truth is, those committing these infractions come from plants inside group gatherings to cause situations the media can report.


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It’s All About Me

This repost from a year ago is about being successful when you build character and being a person with whom people want to do business.

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Repost from Business and Network Marketing Coach

March 19, 2009
by Judith Sherman

Let me share my response with you after I read an email I received yesterday. The email was from a man who wanted to help promote my business on the Internet. I share this story because I want you to appreciate how we sometimes become when we focus on pursuing our dreams.

I want to be very transparent about my motives here because the information in this story could be important to you. Perhaps you will relate to my experience and recognize something about yourself as well.

I learned something about myself when I attended a Dale Carnegie Training class last night. I saw a side of me that I was not aware of, and because I was not aware of it, I didn’t know that I often come off as arrogant and abrasive to people. That is not the person I want to be or how I want to represent myself when I meet people.

I see the same characteristic I saw in myself as being in others who are active in this field. However, like me, they may not recognize it in themselves. As Dr. Phil says, “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.” So please read my response to reading the email and being an abrasive type of person. Then I will tell you why I wrote this posting and why I titled it the way I did.

Dear Sir, I appreciate your offer but I am part of Marketing Merge and Renegade University. I have applied the principles taught there and doing pretty well. Now I am chosing to take the next step in my career and become a mentor for network marketers.

I am excited about this and what I will be able to do for others with this training. I am writing updates on my blog about what I am learning from my Carnegie experience. I know what I’ve learned will help others like me some day.

Perhaps you will check out my blogs. I will be adding one more article tonight about what I learned this evening.

I have done MLM for over thirty years. I’ve had the best teachers, read all the books suggested on the reading list, listened to all training and positive motivation tapes, gone to every seminar and every business meeting, and sat with the most successful people in the field … and I am not exaggerating about any of this.

I’ve succeeded and failed, and I’ve picked myself up and started over again and again This is often the nature of network marketing.

I know when a business is not within FTC regulations and will be shut down when it’s notice. I also know when hype is used to cover up a sinking ship or holes in the plan.

I know when someone is only interested in their success after stepping over people to get there. I know a “come-on” or an approach the minute I hear it; I learned them all and I used them.

I have gathered a lot knowledge and experience over the years and so I’ve been mentoring others; I found out that I am darn good at it. So now that is what I’m doing, along with my Network Marketing business.

However, I realize there are thousands of mentors on the Internet so what makes me different enough to get clientele?

First thing that makes me different is that I enrolled in the Dale Carnegie Training. It cost just under $2,000 for the 12 week course. When I complete the course, I will become an instructor for them.

Having the Carnegie Course under my belt will make me a better person, a better writer, a better leader, a better trainer, and a better mentor. This one thing alone can put me a step above most of those who profess to be mentors on the Internet.
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Now you have likely figured out why I titled this post “It’s All About Me!” What I learned at Carnegie is that everything I did up to this point os all about me. For the first time, I realized that people in the class saw through me and knew that my objectives were centered around me. I did not see how what I contributed to the class might not be helpful to others. Unfortunately, I saw everything clearly tonight about the person I had become; and it was only the second class.

Dale Carnegie wrote the book titled, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He teaches that, in order to get what we want, we need to help people get what they want. Being sincerely interested in the other person, listening to them and what they want, means being humble enough to accept that this is not about me. Being humble and sincere is not the way someone would describe me, and I learned that tonight.

People see through the fakes, those only interested in themselves. I recognize that is the person I have become, even though I thought of myself as serving others. This person may have been who I was in the past, but that is not who I am now. I am so very grateful for what I learned tonight. I now understand a lot more about myself and how I can be a better mentor and serve people better than I have been.

I should have known that the only type of success we should want to attain is that which makes us feel good inside. We feel good when we help others obtain what they want before we try to satisfy ourselves. We feel good when helping others fulfill their potentials and see how their achievements make them happy!

One of the success principles that many Network Marketers and Business Owners forget is that what goes around comes around, and that we get what we want when others get what they want. This success principle is taught in the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, by Dale Carnegie.

I knew all of this but I did not know how to become that person again. Although I had been successful in the past at helping others get what they want first, I had forgotten it and lost my ability to focus on others.

My brother wanted me to join a social site. I didn’t want to and did not have the time to spend. I wanted to do my business and not waste time on a social site. Then I realized this was my answer for getting humble and out of myself. When I made friends and began to know them and interacting with them, I became my old self again. I became the person that made others feel good just by being me. I needed the social site to soften my rough edges and make me a more loving and kind person.

I am not saying that joining a social site will help you the way it did me, but whatever it takes to soften you up and make you a more kind and loving person, then that is what you need to pursue. So, if you want to change the hardened business person that you think you have become, then I encourage you to do something to serve others and that helps you forget about yourself and your own pursuits.

I realize that this is the opposite of what some upline and business mentors teach.  I also realize that books on how to succeed tell you to stay focused on what you want and everything you do must be working toward that goal. If you agree with these people and do what they teach,you will actually push away the people you need to give you the successes you want.

Think about it. Do you enjoy being around people like you want to become? If you don’t like people like this, why do you think others will like you if you are like them?  And why do you think others will want what you offer if they do not like you? People would rather be far away from you than to do business with you.

So what is the answer? Do you follow what you are being taught by the so-called experts or do you want to become the type of person with whom you would want to do business? Would you want to do business with someone who cares about you or with a stranger who just wants to make a buck?

I welcome your comments on this topic, especially if you recognized this flaw in your own character because of this article.

Thanks,

Judith Sherman

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Being The Most of Your Ability

I enjoy some of the comments I get from leaders on Facebook.  When I find great messages that I think you will appreciate, I pass them on to you. This one came from Darnell Curtis that he sent a message to the members of http://www.facebook.com/l/06c34;YourNight.com.

To Your Night, Thought of the day Do not base your abilities on someone elses results, YOU MAY BE BETTER THAN THEM….


I completely agree with Darnell Curtis’ statement. We often put too much pressure on ourselves and our downline when we try to be like somebody else and try to do the work of somebody else. We are all unique. We have our own challenges and abilities, that are unique to us; they belong to us and no one else.

We need to be wise about our expectations and set goals according to accurate thinking* (I will cover this topic more at another time.) Remember that YOU are unique. There is no one like you.That is why you must only demand from yourself the things you have the power to affect, change, or control. Doing otherwise will frustrate you and those with whom you associate or do business.

Use the following guidelines when setting goals according to your aibilities:

  • Use Accurate Thinking. As you make plans for your future and set goals, do not buy into the hype that is often associated with Network Marketing or try to be like others you believe are successful.
  • Practice good work ethics, doing what you say you will do and follow through with the plans you’ve made.
  • Choose who you listen to: Listen to only people more interested in your success than in their own.
  • Keep your perspective in check. This mean you don’t try to run faster than you should and then fail because your perspective was out of whack.
  • Stay in balance. Examine your priorities to make sure you are in alignment with God and Success Principles in order to be successful in life and business.
  • Keep your priorities straight. Do only what you and your spouse have agreed upon as being important and will protect harmony in your life and home.
  • Do NOT chase after people. Allow them to come to you because they know you, you have what they want, and they want to do business with you. To do this, your mind needs to be thinking right, your priorities need to be in alignment, and you need to be balanced. When people feel that they are on your radar, they will run in the opposite direction. People need to know that you are there for them but they won’t believe it if you chase them.
  • Do NOT pretend to be successful or try to convince someone that you are a leader. True leaders just lead and don’t have to talk about being a leader. In other words, your actions speak louder than words. Doing what leaders do makes you a leader just as doing what successful people do leads to success. If you are not doing those things leaders and successful people do, then YOU ARE NOT a leader and you will not be successful.
  • Be yourself, unless you are not the type of person with whom you would want to do business or to be on the other side of a discussion or an invite. You would not be impressed with someone who talks too much, doesn’t look or act professional, or is pushy.
  • Take an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself in the weak areas through positive motivation and then decide how to take advantages of your strengths.
  • Use your abilities to help those with whom you associate. When appropriate, offer to help someone FOR FREE and without strings attached or taking advantage of them. The more you share your abilities with people, the sharper your abilities become.
  • Make a difference in someone’s life; doing so builds self-worth. Notice that I said it builds self-worth and not self-esteem. Self-esteem is the result of how others interact with you and how they make you feel. On the other hand, self-worth is how you feel about yourself when you understand how you have added value to someone’s life.
  • Be true to yourself and the commitments you’ve made to yourself. You cannot allow people to steal your dreams, to keep you in a box or do things to prevent you have achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself. You need to love them for the value they contribute to your life and accept them for who they are, but you have to set healthy boundaries for them. Let them know you value their judgment and ask that they trust your judgment as well. If it’s a mistake then that’s the end result but you need to do it and see how far it takes you.

Being the most of your abilities means you fulfill the measure of your creation and strive to reach your full potential. What can be more satisfying than this?

*Note: I wrote about accurate thinking in my book “The Treasure Box Series, Volume I: Peace, Joy, and Happiness”, copyright dated November 2005 and published by BookSurge.

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Generating Leads Follow-up

Thinking About The Comments

I have received several comments on my blog posting about generating leads.  In responding back to them, I realized that I needed to do a follow-up on this subject.

Below you will see comments from readers that apply to the posting on gathering leads. After the comments is my response to the request to do a follow-up. I’ve included a link to the sites of the commenter so you can see what products/services they offer and can suggest that site to others.

Please feel free to leave comments. I enjoy reading what you have to say about this subject. Those who wanted to comment but have not yet, please know that your privacy is protected and I will not spam you. If you do not want your name or blog site mentioned, make that notation so I will not mentioned your name or site if I use your comment and my comment back.


Definately an eye opener. Thanks. Do you have any plans to follow up on this post. I hope that others will see this and contributeas well. Any time I come accross quality information like this I like give credit where it is due. I’ve already bookmarked this so I don’t have to wade through all the other sites. Believe me I’ve been at this for a week :) http://felixgreenpct.insanejournal.com/


Howdy, nice day! Your work is quite striking. I never thought that it was possible to carry out something like that until after I read your post. You certainly offered an excellent understanding on how this kind of whole process works. I’ll always visit for more advice. Keep it up! http://www.electronicmegastore.com/forum/index.php?action=profile;u=2951;sa=summary


I was studying something else about this on another blog. Interesting. Your position on it is diametrically contradicted to what I read to begin with. I am still mulling over the different points of view, but I’m inclined to a great extent toward yours. And irrespective, that’s what is so great about modern democracy and the marketplace of thoughts on-line. http://www.rugbyworldusa.com/


Hi. Real good information on MLM Leads. I saw your nice blog while exploring bing. For the previous few days I’ve been attempting to find more. Particularly anything to do with the actual lead generation or companies making them. I’ve witnessed it all and my neighbor continues promoting her recent lead system craze on me. So I’m happy I encountered you. Bye!   http://www.bigactionmedia.net/


Thank you for the sound critique. Me and my neighbor were just setting up to do some research about this. I am very glad to see such great info being shared freely out there.       http://www.octagonpicnictables.com/The-Plastic-Storage-Bench/


I’ve been in network marketing since 1977, and I’ve seen successes and failures; it seems to be “the nature

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of the beast” for network marketing.

I’ve also seen a lot of so-called experts who don’t really understand the important principles to being successful. The problem is they may succeed in gathering names but that’s it! They don’t have people skills, especially when their goal is to make money and they could care less about what the people want when they contact them.

There are too many people like this out in the field of Network Marketing. I will NOT do business this way. Using this approach may be successful to a point but it is only short-lived. I appreciate the comment that sparked my thoughts for this posting. Thank you for all of your comments.

Gathering leads is a subject most MLMs are interested in learning more about. I suggest you get yourself on wordpress and set up your own blog or contact me and let me give you some advice about a better way to do it; seriously, call me.

Write some articles that represent your business and your honest feelings about why you are doing it. Tell people you would appreciate them giving you their contact address so you can send them information about your business. Pledge that you will NOT spam them and that you will respect their privacy. Some people still won’t trust you but some will, especially if they are connecting with you through your blog.

The important thing to remember is that being sincere and honest in everything that represents you is extremely important. People will begin to trust you when they know that you do what you say you will do. Now that I’ve said this and you do write an article, give me the link and I will promote you.

Keep up the comments and tell me about your experiences and the areas you’ve done well in and the areas that need help.  Thanks again for being so forthright in your comments. It’s okay if you don’t agree with me, I want to hear that too and why you don’t agree.


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Business Start-up

Judith Sherman

Business Start-Up

I started a Network Marketing business in 1977, which is when I first learned about the soaring spirit and fulfilling dreams. Also, I learned that I can change the rules that society teaches us:

(1) go to school

(2) get good grades

(3) so we can go to college

(4) and get a good job.

Society’s rules worked well for most people at that time. However, people were not taught in school or by parents that there can be another way to be successful; that we can also become successful as an entrepreneur and a business owner. Society needs people that own businesses and provide jobs so others can earn an income. Unfortunately, in those days, there was little information available about becoming an entrepreneur and a business owner.

Network Marketing Became The Answer

Network Marketing companies showed people how they could be a business owner and control what happens to them. People learned that they could invest a little money and their spare time into a Network Marketing business. They also learned that doing that would affect their income and lifestyle more than they could do through a job.

Through Network Marketing, we learned that:

  • *We can change our stars if we want to;
  • *We can follow success principles that reward us with the things we want;
  • *We can obtain what’s important to us when we commitment to do so.

We cannot allow people to keep us in a box or prevent us from becoming who we want to be and from obtaining what we feel is important in life. We have the God-given right to be who we need to be and to do what we know we must do!

We cannot live our lives through other people and their expectations of us. For example, I had an amazing experience that changed my life; I will never be the same because of it. As a result, I wrote a book about my experiences after that and what I learned about chaos, peace, joy, and happiness. However, my family was against me writing the book because they believed I would fail miserably so they tried to keep me from following through with publishing it.

Overcoming Obstacles

Some of my family thought I wasn’t smart enough to write a book that people would buy. One son even said that I did not know anything about peace, joy, and happiness. He reminded me that I was nobody, I had no credentials (meaning I had no titles or letters after my name), and I had no accomplishments that would cause people to think I was an expert on the subject. He said that I was not credible enough for people to pay attention to my work and buy the book. He said the family was worried that, if no one bought my book, it would be devastating to me because I failed. Obviously, he didn’t know me as well as he thought he did.

This experience taught me that we have to go after what we feel we are supposed to do, even when everyone close to us says we cannot do it. In my case, people did buy my books and I did not fail; in fact, I helped a lot of people. I made the decision that “I Will Not Be Denied My Destiny” and proceeded to publish the book, along with a second publication as well (titled “Sex, What About It?”).

I completed the book in spite of the teasing I took from friends and family. Instead of giving up, I followed through with publishing and I’m pleased that I did. Many readers told me that the book helped them overcome problems they have not been able to resolve until they read the book. One woman said that I understood her better than anyone else has throughout her entire life. Another one said that I have the ability to mirror life in general. People were able to get through their problems and make their lives better because I would not allow family and friends to tease me or prevent me from what I knew I had to do.

To read testimonials about my services, please use this link: www.JudithSherman.com/Testimonials.

Contact me by email:Judith@Sherman.com

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Gathering Leads

Suggestions For Gathering Leads

Aside from using the benefits of Renegade University in getting leads through Attraction Marketing, what method can be most beneficial in gathering leads?

I am a guide with Renegade University. I value this fantastic program because it has helped me in numerous ways. If you click on the link, you can read my bio about the whole Marketing Merge program. Then, if it interests you, click on the link at the bottom of that page. It will take you to a form where you can visit and enroll in the Renegade University.

Gathering Leads

Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 5:12AM

You can gather leads the “Old Fashion Way” by Cold Contacting people. This means you meet people that you did not know before and start up a conversation with them. You need to go to places where people gather (at the Mall, the park, church, social gatherings, grocery stores, car repair places) and begin a conversation with them. The conversation should cover the F.O.R.M. questions.

F.O.R.M. is talking about their

F family

O occupation/job

R recreation/travel, do they have places they want to go and boats or RV’s they want to buy

M message that you can help them with the concerns and desires they’ve mentioned

F.O.R.M. WILL BACKFIRE IF YOU ARE INSINCERE AND COME OFF AS A SALESMAN!

People don’t want to be sold but they do want to buy. They will buy what you want them to when you allow them to sell themselves. They will buy your marketing plan or products when they see the value in it for themselves, how it will improve their lives, and how they can do it. In other words, it’s their idea to join your organization or to buy your products or service.

THE NEW WAY, THE SMARTER WAY WILL BE TO ATTRACT PEOPLE THAT WANT WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER. They have already made the decision to look or they would not have found you on the Internet. Your job is to convince them to look at your offer. You do that with a good Contact Page that allows them to get the gist of what you are doing and how they benefit. They will then fill out the form for you to contact them.

Do you see the value in contacting people the second way? People are already looking for you, they already want to buy, and all they need is a reason to contact you and not someone else. Your job is to give them that reason.

The second suggestion is a much better way to contact people. The old way is really nothing short of solicitation, which is why people get so irritated when you talk to them, why they don’t want to hear about opportunities and plans, and why they seem to run the other way when you talk to them. Likely, they were not thinking of what you can offer them and they were not in the mindset to buy.

Obviously, your rate of success increases when you contact people who are already looking, already prepared for your message, and already to buy what you offer. What more can you ask for? Do your job and give them a reason to contact you.

Let me introduce you to the Renegade University way of contacting people in greater numbers, those who have already been sorted and qualified, and those who are ready for the next step.

Send me an email and tell me you want to talk. Call me or leave me a number to call you. Otherwise, just click on the links I’ve provided above and make the decision to enroll in the Renegade University. They will let me know you have enrolled shortly after and then I will help you get started right away.

My name is Judith Sherman

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Email is Judith@JudithSherman.com.

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There Is Not Can’t – Just Won’t

“There is no such thing as can’t, only won’t. If you’re qualified, all it takes is a burning desire to accomplish, to make a change. Go forward, go backward. Whatever it takes! But you can’t blame other people or society in general. It all comes from your mind. When we do the impossible we realize we are special people.” Author–Jan Ashford

These are true words of wisdom. In addition, let me add that life is full of disappoint and hardship.  Using past successes or failures as an excuse for not succeeding is a prison that we’ve placed ourselves in with our own “stink’n think’n”.  Let go of it all and move forward! Change our situation!

Choosing to wallow in our problems or mistakes do no good, and letting anger rule our decisions is dangerous.

We cannot move forward if we insist on staying in the past. Not moving forward and staying stuck in our prison can cause us to become stagnant in life. The more stagnant we become, the more putrid our interactions with others become.

We have to let go of the past, remember the lessons we learned from it, and stop living the events that cause us pain. Looking in the rear view mirror means we can’t focus on what’s ahead of us; the future holds no goals, vision or dreams.

The same is true when we lean on past success and think that we deserve success now without the same level of efforts shown in the past. Each day, month and year is different from the last so we must acknowledge this when making plans. Being in the moment helps us to be more effective in carrying out our plans and helps us to be more flexible as well when something changes.

In Summary:

1.  There is NO Can’t Only Won’t!

2.  It takes a burning desire to succeed.

3.  If you aren’t going forward you are going backwards.

We cannot move forward if we insist on staying in the past. Get out of the past and live in the present.

2.  Stay in the present so we can meet current challenges.

3.  Be flexible in order to deal with today’s challenges, recognizing that each day and times are different.

4.  Put forth the effort necessary to succeed today and not on what you did in the past.

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